Saturday, November 9, 2013

Success?

Ok, so this week I started mushies.  Love them! (most of them) I am doing some really soft things too, and then mushing it with my fork.  It is hard to eat a lot of pureed food.  It changes the taste.  I just want to eat normal food so bad I could scream.  But I am doing my best to stick with the rules. 

The frustrating thing is...I gained this week.  I weighed in yesterday at 267.2.  Not what I wanted to see at all!  I called my clinic and she said she's not too worried about it.  They just want my body to heal at this point.  I texted my nutritionist and she asked me a few questions...am I drinking my water?  What about portion sizes? Where am I on my menstrual cycle?  I answered them all but she never got back with me.  I don't know what I am doing wrong.  I log all my calories and I am eating less than 1000 calories on a high day.  I am exercising and burning anywhere between 375-600 calories a day. I feel like it is going to be fine and it will start to come off, but I want it to come off right now.  My dear sweet hubby often reminds me, several times a day, that it didn't take a month to put it on.  It's not going to take a month to get it off.  I know. I know.  Patience has never been something I've had a lot of though.  I will just keep at it and try to get more water in.  That is one area I am struggling with.  It is hard to remember to drink a bunch an hour before you eat and then when I eat I want to drink.  But I am really working it get it all down and do it right.  Practice makes perfect, right?

Well the house is quiet. The 4 little ones are playing with friends today and the oldest is at the school doing band tryouts.  The hubby is sick so he's in bed.  I think I'll take a nap too.  I woke up at 5:22 this morning and never was able to go back to sleep.  It's time for a little rest. :)

Friday, November 1, 2013

P.S.

If you are following my blog, let me know who you are.  I will start to follow you.  I see that I have people looking, but no comments.  The blog world is what saves me some days.  So I would love to follow you.

Thanks! :)

Carry on/Weigh in Friday

So this week has been tough.  Really tough.  I weighed in today at 264.4.  That is a 2 lb. weight loss and I am still on liquids.  I don't understand.  I am so hungry and I want to eat so badly, but I can't.  My reward should be significant weight loss, right?  I guess not.  I am determined to follow the rules and do what I am told, but I am also getting frustrated.  I start mushies on Wednesday and I can't even tell you how excited I am.  I am ready to have something NOT SWEET!!!  I think it will be fabulous! :)

My feelings about this week....I am frustrated that I only lost 2 lbs., but I am also thrilled that I didn't gain 2 lbs.  I don't know if that makes sense, but that is how I feel.  I'll take it.  I'll carry on, keep going, and be grateful that I am loosing.

Sunday, October 27, 2013

Feeling better today! (and a weigh in)

As of today, I am a week and 3 days post op.  I am finally starting to feel pretty good.  I still have the gas in my shoulder that is causing me pain and I can feel my port and it is pretty tender.  Other then that, I am feeling so much better. 

I went to church today and 3 people commented on my weight loss.  That made me feel so good!  I didn't thing people would notice yet.  I really like that they can tell a difference. 

Cecil and I went for a short walk tonight and I was able to walk back up to my normal pace.  It felt wonderful!  The last several walks I have been on have been so slow and every step hurt.  But today was different.  It is amazing to me how much better I feel.  I love it!  Cecil also told me that the walk today was much easier for him.  He is doing awesome with his weight loss too!  He is down 20 lbs. since I started my pre op diet.  He did a lot of that with me and he is continuing to work so hard at losing weight.  He has goals for himself just like I do, and together, we are going to get skinny! :)

My goals this next week are:
   *Get my water in everyday! (I have been failing miserably at this!)
   *Walk my 2 1/2 miles Monday-Friday
   *Get my 3 "meals" and 3 snacks in on time

I've been giving myself slack due to how rotten I have been feeling, but it is time to get back on track.  I hope I feel just as good tomorrow as I have today, maybe even a little better. :)

I am so grateful for the wonderful support Cecil has been to me!  Even though I have had such a rough time since surgery, he has been there with me, helping me and encouraging me.  I couldn't have made it through all that without him.  I have a wonderful husband!

Since I didn't do a weigh in post on Friday, like I had planned, I will put my current weight as of today. 

Pre surgery diet: 299.6
Surgery Day 10/17/13- 280
Today 10/27/13 -266.6

Thursday, October 24, 2013

It REALLY happened!

Ok, Ok, Ok, where do I even begin!  I thought I had started a post, and I very well could have, but the last week is such a blur that I am not sure.  I can't find a draft of one, so I will just start over. 

I called Yolanda on Thursday, October 10 to see what I needed to do from that point.  I was frustrated and angry, but I didn't want to give up.  She said that the Dr. from my insurance and Dr. Buschman had a phone conference in 25 minutes to discuss why it got denied.  YAY!  That was a long 25 minutes.  She said she would call me back and let me know what happened.  So she did and she is the one that ended up talking to them and IT GOT APPROVED!!!! Yolanda asked me to be there on Friday morning to have a check up with Dr. B and then I needed to get an EKG and my labs done.  Then I needed to go over to the surgical center and get pre registered. 

Mom and Dad and Grandma and Grandpa left on Thursday to come down here to visit us. They didn't end up getting here on Thursday night, but I had to keep my appt. on Friday so I headed to Lubbock.  I got everything I needed to do done and got home about an hour and a half after everyone got here.  At the dr. I told them that I wanted surgery on Wednesday, but that wasn't a for sure thing.  On Monday they called me and told me that we would have to have it on Thursday.  That was just fine. 

I did as good as I could with having company.  I didn't want to gain anything at all.  I did protein shakes in the day but then I usually ate supper.  I did really good.  Then 2 days before surgery, I really tried to not eat any solids at all.  Wednesday I found out that I had to be at the surgery center at 10:00 Thursday morning.  Nothing to eat or drink after midnight and I had to get my Lovenox shot and give it to myself.  I forgot about that!  But it worked out just fine.  I really wanted to get several suppers made and put in the fridge, but by the time I got everything else done, it didn't happen.  I bought easy stuff and had meals planned so it worked out just fine.  Wednesday night was so busy.  Amber, Eli and Owen had primary.  I cancelled YW.  I wanted to have everyone get bathed and I wanted Cecil to give me a blessing.  He did and it was very comforting.  I didn't tell the kids I was having surgery, I just told them that I was going to the dr. and I would be really sleepy when they got home.  I also didn't tell anyone in the Branch except Tanya and her husband and Trish.  I was glad that I had told everyone that it was denied because now I don't have to talk to anyone about it.  Maybe someday I will tell everyone, but right now, I am not ready for that. 

I really had no idea what my recovery was going to be like.  I didn't know what to expect.  I thought a few days and then I would be up and going just fine.  Not the case, but we will get to that in a bit.   Mom and dad decided to stay and help out through surgery day. I was SO glad and SO grateful!

I was able to get up, get the kids off to school, Isabelle went to Tanya's (and then came home after preschool) and Mom, Dad, Grandma and Grandpa just hung out at home all day.  Cecil and I stopped off at Wal Mart to get some gas x strips.  I was told they would really help after surgery.  Then we were off to Lubbock.  We got there about 15 minutes early and they got us right back to the pre op area.  They got an IV started and then we ended up having to wait a long time because the anesthesiologist had something else he needed to respond to.  By the time he got back, I think it was around 1:00.  I'm not positive about that because this is where things get a little foggy.  I remember the nurse coming in and telling me that she was going to give me a little something to make me feel funny.  I told Cecil good bye and watched him walk out of my room.  The nurse wheeled me out and around a corner.  I remember thinking that she was good at maneuvering that big bed. lol  Then she took me into the OR and she told me I needed to scoot my body over to this other bed.  That's about as much as I remember.  It was hard to move, but I don't remember getting settled on that other bed.  The next thing I knew I was asking for my husband.  I just remember asking for him over and over.  I remember everyone telling me to breath and I remember wanting to get up and move cause I wanted to go home.  The first thing Cecil told me was that they had to do a hernia repair as well before they could put the band on.  I started to move and it hurt.  And I felt like I was going to vomit.  And then I vomited.  And vomited.  And vomited.  Then I got to drink that really gross stuff so they could take an x-ray and they said everything looked great.  I got back into bed...and vomited again.  Ugh! It was a little rough.  But I really wanted to go home.  They had to make sure I could use the bathroom so I did that and got all situated and off to home we went.  I don't remember a lot from the ride.  I just know I hurt really bad.  The gas in my body was killing me.  I wanted pain medicine so Cecil went to get it and the pharmacy was closed.  It was a very long night! I didn't sleep much at all.  I was out on the couch trying to ease the pain as much as I could.  Then first thing Friday morning, Cecil went and got the medicine.  It helped a lot!  Mom and dad decided to leave that morning since Cecil took the day off to be with me.  I just rested a lot and tried to drink as much as I could.  This last week has just been trying to get better.  I have been in so much more pain then I thought I would.  It isn't a lot of pain from the incisions, it is pain from the gas.  It is in my left shoulder so bad and under my diaphragm so it hurts to breath and move.  Sleeping has been a bit of an issue as well.  But I really think I am on the mend. 

I got my staples out yesterday and I was glad to see them go. :)  It just means I am healing more now.  I can have full color liquids and that has been nice as well.  It is just going to take time.  I am ready for this change.  I am ready for the scale to keep going down! It is so exciting for me to lose this weight.  Cecil is also doing awesome! He is down 38 lbs and he is looking so good!  He is supporting me 100% in my weight loss journey and I am so grateful for that!  It is so much easier to be dedicated when you are not the only one trying. 

So below is my surgery day weight and pre surgery photos.  (all taken the day of surgery)


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Wednesday, October 9, 2013

The waiting game is over....

Ok, so yesterday I got a phone call from my Lapland coordinator. She said that the hold up on everything was that the insurance said they never received my physc evaluation.  So she re faxed it to them and the nurse called her back to say that she approved everything, she just needed to send it off to the dr and they would have an answer for me in the morning. Well first thing this morning they called and it has been denied! I am crushed. I can't even explain how crushed I am! I have been doing everything they want me to do for the past 4 months! I have jumped through all their hoops and played their game only for them to deny me?? My BMI is 47! That in itself should qualify me! Ahhhh, maybe I should continue this post later. I am so upset I can't even type.  I just don't understand.

Friday, October 4, 2013

Still Waiting...

And it's ok.  I am officially down 17 lbs. as of today.  I am totally ok with that.  Cecil and I have been doing protein shakes for breakfast and lunch and then a low carb supper.  Last night we just bought a rotisserie chicken and the night before we did taco salad without any chips.  Both nights were filling and satisfying and I was happy with that.  Tonight I am going to make chicken fajita salad.  Yum! :)  Cecil is losing a lot better than I am.  He is down 30 lbs. from when we got married. (16 lbs. since we started the shake diet.)  I still am not down to what I was when we got married, but I am down 17 lbs. from 2 1/2 weeks ago.  I am not disappointed.  It will come off.  It didn't take 2 1/2 weeks to gain this 100+ lbs.  I'm not going to lose it in 2 1/2 weeks.  At least I am not gaining.  When I get discouraged with the lack of info from the insurance company, I remind myself that if I hadn't started the liquid diet, I would have continued to gain.  I would have gotten over 300 lbs.  So I am not upset that I started it when I did.  I just really wish I would hear something.  The kids are not asking questions.  They just think that we are on a diet.  I am glad.  I really don't want them to know.  I am being very selective with who I do tell.  People at church have found out and it is hard to have them not say anything in front of the kids.  I am sure they will eventually find out, I just don't want them to right now.  My side of the family knows, but Cecil's doesn't.  Like I said, in time, I am sure everyone will know, but right now I am not ready for them all to know. 

As far as the weekend goes, it is General Conference.  My favorite!  We do need to go grocery shopping but for the most part, I want to stay home and relax.  It seems like life has been in full force for a few months and it would really be nice to have some relaxation.  I think everyone would enjoy it. 

Let's get this weekend started! :) Happy Friday!

Tuesday, October 1, 2013

The waiting game

Ok, so nothing from the insurance yet!  It's been 2 weeks since I started the protein shakes, and, yes, I have cheated.  A lot.  I am still at a 15 lb weight loss, so I am not mad, I am just frustrated.  I really don't think that surgery will even happen this week.  I was told today that they have until the 15th and they just might take that long to make a decision.  How frustrating!  In the mean time, I think I will just not eat sugar, just meat, cheese, that kind of stuff, and keep on waiting.  I would love to keep loosing and I certainly don't want to gain anything back.  I just want the surgery.  I am ready.  So I will hurry up and wait.  That's what insurance companies like you to do.  Wait, wait, wait. 

Monday, September 23, 2013

Protein Shakes

Orange, banana, chocolate, vanilla...it doesn't matter the flavor, they all are HORRIBLE!! I gag just to get them down.  But on the HUGE bonus side, I am down 16.2 lbs. in a week! That is not so horrible. :) It makes me quite happy, in fact.  It makes me see that I can do this. 

Yesterday was just an all around not so good day.  It started with the night before.  I drank a new vanilla protein shake and within a few hours, I was really, really dizzy; to the point that I vomited.  It was pretty bad.  I was incredibly weak and just felt sick.  Then Sunday morning started out rough, getting the kids out the door for church and then just some misunderstandings with Cecil and I.  He told me on the way to church that he just didn't think I was ready for this journey.  It really got me thinking.  Am I ready to not have food be a major part of my life?  Am I ready and able to say no to food when it is offered to me?  Am I going to be able to do this?  I thought about it all day.  We talked some more about it when we got home.  He told me he just wanted his happy Mandy back.  I'm not happy when I can't be in the kitchen.  That is where I feel like my talents are.  I miss that, but I also know that I will be able to cook again.  I will be able to bake again.  I just can't do a lot of that right now because it is too hard when I can only have these silly protein shakes.  Then last night we fed the Elders.  Cecil and I decided together that we would just eat a little bit of the meat and sauce but no noodles from the lasagna.  We also had a little bit of salad and a chocolate chip cookie.  We had about the same amount of portion that I will be eating after I am banded.  I was fine!  Did I want more?  Of course.  But was I full?  Of course!  That experience made me realize that, yes, indeed, I want the band.  I want to continue on this journey that I started a week ago today.  I can do this and I will be healthier and happier for doing it.  It is going to be hard.  I know that.  I know that some days will suck.  I walked two miles this morning and now I am starving.  I don't get my shake for another 4 hours.  I will just have to be hungry this morning.  It felt really good to get back on the road this morning though.  I didn't get out once last week.

I can face this challenge.  I will become a better person for it.  I will never see the number on the scale that I saw last Monday again.  I will never see the number on the scale that I saw today again!  I am ready for my divorce with food! 

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

The Liquid Diet...

If I had to remember the exact date, I think it would be June 27 or 28, 2013.  I had previously thought I was pregnant, and on one of those 2 days, found out I wasn't.  That was a life changing moment for me.  I called Dr. Bushman's office in Lubbock, Texas, and asked Yolanda, the Lap Band coordinator, what I needed to do to start the process of getting a lap band.  The first step was to see if my insurance covered it.  Yes, in fact they did.  It was 80/20 after my deductible.  After that, I needed to meet with a psychiatrist, the dietician, and attend a lap band seminar.  The next seminar was on July 15th, but she told me I could get my mtg with the psychiatrist and dietician in the meantime.  I did exactly what she said.  I met with both of them, attended the seminar and that same evening, made my initial appt. with Dr. Bushman for July 19th.  After that appt, they sent a letter to my insurance and told me that I needed three months of supervised diet and exercise plus monthly meetings with the dietician.  Ok, no biggie.  I was a little disappointed, but I didn't let that stop me.  I was very determined.  I have now completed my third visit with the dietician and physician.  I started my liquid diet on Monday, September, 16 2013 and am on day 3.  My beginning weight on Monday was 299.4.  Today I weighed in at 291.4.  -8 lbs in 48 hours makes me one happy mama.  Is the liquid diet hard? Yes!  Why? I haven't quite figured it out.  I am tired, but I've been tired for several weeks now.  I'm not sure why that is.  Am I hungry? Yes, but I don't feel starved to death.  I don't crave sugar.  I am craving meat, cheese, and maybe nuts.  Have I cheated?  Nope!  I am very proud to say that I haven't!  I am quite shocked, and proud of myself, actually.  I really, really worried about it because I am home all day.  I have to prepare breakfast, lunch and dinner for all the kids.  I am SO LUCKY and THANKFUL that Cecil is doing it with me!!  He said he would do every step of the process with me.  I am so glad!  It makes it so much easier knowing that he is going through this with me.  We can consume Protein shakes (I bought specific ones from Dr. Bushman) or Atkins ones, low sodium beef/chicken broth or sugar free jello/Popsicles.  That's it!  Nothing more. But really, I am doing ok! I haven't heard from Yolanda yet, so I am not exactly sure on my surgery date, but we are thinking either next Thursday, Friday, or the following Monday.  (Sept. 26, 27 or 30) The 27th would be the best day for Cecil and myself.  But really, I just want it done so bad!  I have looked into this for years!  I have been to many seminars before.  I have asked all the questions, I have done a lot of research.  It is proven that if you have 100+ lbs to lose, the probability of doing it without WLS is very low.  They say  you can lose the weight, but you will probably gain it all back and plus some without some sort of tool to help you.  That is what I am getting. (hopefully next week!) I am getting the tool that will help me lose this weight once and for all!  I know it won't be a magic cure.  It won't automatically make me thin.  It will be a tool.  I will still have to make good choices.  I will still have to eat the right things and meal plan and always be aware of what I am putting into my mouth.  But I will feel full a lot faster, I will feel full a lot longer and I will over all be a lot more successful. 

This is the start to a new me.  I am so excited!  I can't wait to be healthier. I can't wait to have more energy.  I can't wait to have a much better quality of life!  (And I can't wait to have a better bedroom life with my handsome and loving and supportive husband!!) I can't think of any reason why this would not be the best weight loss decision for me and my entire family!

Taken Sept 7, 2013 - Cecil's Birthday             Taken in Aug. 2013




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